How do one break the cycle? How do one add spice?
What happened to the girl that he married? What happened to the guy that was insistent that he only wanted that girl? The guy that went against his mum’s wishes to marry her?
I’m still that insecured girl that is not sure of his love for me. With all that’s happened are we still okie as a couple? Or he’s only here because of the kids? Or the familiarity?
I do not know. Why would you stay with someone like me? Someone that continues to wander?
On the surface we are okie. I’m scared to dwell deeper. The more deeper I go the more depress I get.
Let just say the worse scenario gets played out on repeat.
I am dreading that one of these days he’d find someone worthy and packs his bags.
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No one stays the same after saying”I do”. We grow and change in so many ways. It is important to constantly communicate with a spouse and keep up with the changes they are going through. Communicating is a key part of having a successful relationship.
Adding spice to a marriage includes both spouses to take the initiative. See how to meet your spouse’s needs, he should also try to meet yours.
Marriage is not one – sided. It takes two people to make it a success.
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A marriage is a partnership. And yes it takes both to make it work.
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I’ll never delve into another’s relationship with opinion. Everyone’s is different and works in the manner they choose. Y’all have married a long time. You’ve created a family together. You’ve created a life together. Most people who do that are not just there for the kids, or out of famialarity, or some other lame reason. If he didn’t love you, he probably wouldn’t still be there. If you’re concerned, y’all need to talk. Probably about everything, including the wandering eye. Or just continue things as is. Only you can decide which.
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I guess always nice to hear it from a male perspective. I’m clueless when it comes to my problem.
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I can only speak to my wife and I, our relationship, and my perspective. I’m not privy to anyone else’s relationship dynamic. Only the two of you know what you guys are about, and how it works. What I said before is merely observation, based on limited facts, with a general assumption that there is still love there. If so, it can be reignited. 😊
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Thanks 😊
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I do not like your last sentence Dewy… ” we are ALL worthy”
I am new to your blog so I do not know all your history and your troubles but like I said before, don’t look back, nobody can change the past, all you can do it learn from it. Time to move forward. If you love him and you just need to rekindle the spark then look for ways to make him feel special, little things, treats in his lunch, love letters on his pillow, favorite chocolates with his shaving cream, making the dinners he loves the best. Dress up sexy, kick the kids out for the night and do a candle light dinner. From reading your previous post about cuddles it looks like you can still have fun together so expand on those moments!!
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😍😍😍😍😍
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I’m bringing him lunch 😊
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awwww put a kissy love face note in his lunch!
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He’s grumpy at me. We are supposed to have lunch with the oldest and her boyfriend. I just dropped off his snack so to keep him going to lunch. He says he can’t make it I put my foot down. If that’s the case why didn’t he say no the other day when she mentioned it 😩 he lets his staff go on holidays left right and centre and now he’s got no staff and work piling up. Not my problem 😩
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He’s one of those that believe that the chasing belonged to whilst we were going out. Thus once we got hitched that’s it lol. I’m the romantic one.
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Awww sorry he is grumpy!!
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He’s always grumpy when he doesn’t get his fix 😂 I’m dragging him to the lunch whether he like to go or not 😂
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How’s your job hunting going?
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fucking depressing 😦
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😩 that doesn’t sound good. When are you due back? I’m going to start looking may be next year. At the moment I haven’t decided if I want to go back to hospital job since our business and volunteering is keeping me busy.
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December 10th is my last day in America, October 27th is my last day of my job, then I get to play for a bit!!
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Oh okie. Might be best to leave til the New Year?
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Tickets are all booked and paid for, I want to spend Christmas with my kids
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I meant job search 😊
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Oh lol, I am hoping to get a job while I am still in the US so that I have a job to come home to
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https://www.seek.com.au/Pharmacist-jobs-in-healthcare-medical/in-All-Melbourne-VIC
My job search is depressing as hell too lol
Nothing that I really want.
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Oops just found something. Application closes on Tuesday 😍 Not sure if I should commit 😍
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You don’t like any of those pharmacist jobs? I would shit at that, I would be telling people they need to change their lifestyle, exercise and eating so they can get off all those damned pills 😛
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Nope because I’m hospital trained. Retail ones puts up with all the crap like clients coming in and pulling their pants down to show you their rash 😂 And they all are full time positions. I only like casual as it gives me more freedom to say yes or no.
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Hahaha pull down their pants LOL
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It’s terrible . Right in the middle of the shop too.
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